At a family party under the backyard string lights, my brother raised his glass and laughed, “She’s the loser of this family!” My mom smiled in approval, like it was our usual entertainment. But the man in the gray suit—my brother’s most important client—suddenly stood up, stared straight at me, then turned to my brother and asked, baffled: Do you really not know who she is? That question hit the table like a cold stone. The laughter that had been bouncing under the string lights stalled, like s